It’s not a hidden fact that people all around you are indulging in sexual activity as you read this. We have a population of over 7.8 Billion people on earth. Suffices to say that a large percentage is pretty horny at any point in time. If they aren’t engaging they are thinking of engaging. Letting their imagination run wild. Some common components of that imagination include threesomes, orgies, sex parties, bondage dominance submission and masochism (BDSM), gang bangs, bukkakes, swingers, polyamory and polygamies, etc. While they are common fantasies among straight people they have to involve lgbtqia+ members to be complete and authentic. As “Vanilla" as it may sound, straight sex is intimacy between two people of different genders aka male and female. The incorporation of another member requires at least one person from the group to be a part of the community. Whether inside or outside the closet is a different story. A very common incorporation in these fantasies are false pretenses. While they are common, they can be somewhat dangerous. They include saying “no" or “stop" when a partner initiates pain but they actually mean “continue” because the pain provides stimulus. In such cases it is very important to have clear communication and a safe word that has absolutely nothing to do with the sex. For example: you and your two partners are in a compromising position and you are in pain. You ask your partners to stop but they don’t because they think you are enjoying it. To make it clearer you use the safe word which is a substitute to “stop". In this case your safe word is “Frying Pan". You say “Frying Pan", both your partners check up on you, there is safe and decent communication and everybody continues giving and receiving pleasure. The question arises when the group activity is spontaneous. Is the Unicorn being submissive to please you to avoid conflict or are the actually into the whole thing? If you’re making them feel embarrassed, do they like it or do they actually want to get out of the situation? How can you be sure you aren’t forcing someone into it? When someone says “no" or “stop" do they mean it or are they playing along? If you don’t stop when someone says stop, are you assaulting them? How far is too far? If you stop when they tell you to are you being a good person or ruining the fun of it? In my opinion reassurance is the most important factor here. The use of a safe word is also important. Talking about the activity in advance like each person’s turn on and turn offs, what is expected and what is to be done in case of an awkward moment. As cliché as it sounds- Communication is Key.