It’s okay to not know immediately Figuring out your sexuality can be pretty confusing, so don’t feel rushed to label yourself or know immediately. Many people struggle with their sexuality for years, so it’s completely normal to feel lost. You don’t have to come out You are not obligated to tell your friends/family, especially if you’re still unsure or uncomfortable about your sexuality. That decision of who, when, where is entirely your own. Be considerate of them as well Understand that this news may come as a surprise to some, so give them time and space if needed. Remind them that your sexuality doesn’t define you, it’s just a part of the person you are. Try subtly checking beforehand It’s always better to be insightful before coming out, so try subtly asking or discussing the LGBTQ community to know their opinion on the matter. Depending on their response you can confirm your decision to come out. You are loved regardless Know that regardless of their reaction, you are a valid person. Your sexual orientation does not depend on the opinions of others, it is your choice and yours alone. Avoid coming out during stressful talks/fights This is a given but avoid coming out in such situations. They can cause a lot of miscommunication and hurt you in the long run, be clear-headed and assertive whenever you come out. Try talking to an LGBTQ person or someone who is out If you know any LGBTQ people (preferably adults) whom you can trust not to out you, try talking about your troubles with them. They may have some good insight and personal experience you can keep in mind when coming out. If your surrounding aren’t safe, be careful Sometimes even when you want to come out, your surroundings can make that difficult. If there is a risk of you being in danger (verbal or physical) stall coming out for a while. Unfortunately, there are many countries where being LGBTQ is unacceptable, so ensure your safety first. Prepare yourself for negative reactions Be prepared for some backlash. Even if a person seems supportive they could react negatively, so don’t take their words to heart. Of course, it’s great if they seem nice, but one should always wish for the best and expect the worst. Clarify your stand on them outing you Be specific about who knows, who shouldn’t know and whether they’re allowed to speak of your sexuality publicly. Such discussions beforehand can help avoid awkward situations where they accidentally out you. It’s a neverending process, so be patient Coming out will continue to be a part of your life as you meet new people. It’s a fairly new concept in a heteronormative world, so be patient when telling people (if you want) about yourself. More than anything, know that you are an amazing and loved person, regardless of your sexual orientation. Be yourself, love yourself.